With hesitation, society is beginning to embrace the inescapable desire for sexual pleasure. That means more bedside drawers are filling up with pleasure toys. Although incredible, the pleasure toy industry is still one of the least regulated fundaments within society. Even with a rapidly growing industry gatekeepers such as the FDA still refuse to conduct safety procedures to assure all toys are body safe. This results in toxic materials entering intimate parts of the body, and fast production gets away with it every year!!
Have you ever purchased a toy that came with an odd smell? Maybe you convinced yourself it would go away with time and a lot of soap? Or maybe the toy got HOT inside of you? Now it’s just collecting dust in your drawer because you’re afraid it’ll explode. Pleasure toys are not meant to make you wonder if this will be safe to use. They are meant for PLEASURE. That’s why we need innovative sex entrepreneurs to take initiative within sex technology.
Meet Isabelle Deslauriers founder of Desirables. A design company with a focus on pleasure toys, that launched in 2013 when the idea came from a university finals project as a student studying industrial design.
Deslauriers states “Before launching Désirables I always knew I would have my own company, I just didn’t know it would be in the sex toy industry!” Ah, me too Deslauriers…me too!
Sometimes it takes a demand with no supply to create a future we want to be apart of. In the hopes to spark some intimacy lacking in her relationship, Deslauriers attended one of those sex-toy parties. You know the ones where you drink wine and talk about sex and pass around dildos! On paper, this is great. But when tacky toys are going around like hot potato you could only end up sorely disappointed.
None of the cheap pleasure toys with odd shapes and smells showcased were aligned with her vision on erotism and intimacy. “It was a very disappointing moment, but also a very transformative experience. I kept thinking throughout my time in university that there must have been a way to design better sex toys” Deslauriers states. “More and more I felt like there was something I could do. So when my friends dared me to make a sex toy as my final project, I jumped on the occasion. My focus was on: How to create a bridge between design, sexuality, and intimacy.”
Considering the stigma surrounding sex, Deslauriers had to be thorough when she made the decision to take on sex tech for a university project. “My approach was ethical and based on real problems.
But in every presentation, I needed to be on my A-game to make sure they would hear my pitch and not just look at my products and think plastic penises,” said Deslauriers. This came with strategy, there was a purpose behind every decision.
She spoke with real people about real issues they faced when it came to sex toys. This research was able to reveal a clear idea on a design that would enhance the way pleasure is experienced. Looking past the aesthetic of the sex toys, the research begged the question ‘How can I make this for everyone regardless of disability?’ With over a 12-step process, 5 to 10 sketches, and some 3D printing later Dalia the original Desirables was thus created. This made pleasure accessible by crafting an ergonomic shape for people with arthritis for example.
Needed another touch of uniqueness to a pleasure brand? Desirables’ entire collection is made of porcelain “…It’s 100% body-safe and toxic-free because of the way porcelain ‘comes into being’. For our dildos, we use the same technique as used in Limoges’ porcelain. Which is basically the highest quality you can get in terms of clay/porcelain.” Deslauriers points out. ”It is also a hypoallergenic material. So you don’t have to worry about internal use or disrupting the ph balance of your vagina.”
It’s the 21st century and porcelain isn’t just pleasing to the eyes now!
Porcelain is easy to clean, after every use be sure to wash with a warm wet cloth and mild soap. Deslauriers also mentions that boiling your porcelain toy is another option for a deeper clean or pop it in the oven to cook at 275०C. Be sure to properly store your toys to prevent dust and accidents.
Exploring our desires undeniably comes with its challenges. So when someone creates a toy with real people in mind by diving deeper into the personal side of pleasure, a community starts to find a safe way to resonate with intimacy. Deslauriers has found many rewarding moments through the launch of Desirables. “…the most rewarding part is definitely the testimonies we receive from clients. Whether it is a new mom reconnecting with her body, a cancer survivor being able to feel pleasure again, a newly divorced woman that wanted to reconnect with her sexuality, or even helping to reduce endometriosis pain. These personal thank yous are always heartwarming and remind me of why I wanted to create better sex toys and intimacy tools in the first place.”
By providing a tool for people to comfortably explore pleasure we open doors for a safer environment. This allows room for the conversation we are told to avoid. It makes a difference.